Monday 05 / January / 2026
It always takes us by surprise when a lie becomes the truth. Have I lost you? Of course I have because we know that it is wrong to compromise moral principles. Let me explain further. When we go in a denial mode it is because we are trying to hide the fact. Perhaps there is a lot at stakes and we may lose a lot by telling the plain truth.
On the other hand, when we avoid doing something that we really want, then we are forced to lie. Let me give you an example. I received an email last month and a friend wanted some information about a job. I worked for the next two hours assessing all the requirements he might need for the interview and the pros and cons of the job.
I then quite happily send the information knowing that I did well to help him. A couple of weeks passed and I got no reply. Obviously, I was anxious to know about the progress my friend made in his hunt for a job. I sent him a line and got no reply.
I decided to inquire somewhere else. I got in touch with his brother who was very amused about the whole thing.
"He showed us the email you sent back," his brother explained," and he also bothered to send the application and even attended the interview."
What he was telling me was that his brother had no intention to work. His job application was successful and he was asked to start work almost immediately. You guessed right. He never bothered to turn up for his first day at the office or even call them that he did not want the job.
In other words, the truth was that the man was lying leading us to believe that he was genuinely looking for a job. But then, I asked his brother, why did he go through the trouble of impressing us?
"He is not trying to impress anybody," his brother said," to him is a game he enjoys playing."
My first thought was to contact him and give him a piece of my mind. I wanted to tell him exactly what I thought of him. On second thought, why bother at all? I dropped it but could not help thinking about it.
He was also one of those people who liked to sponge the resources of others. He ate and slept at his parents' house and treated everybody like his benefactors. He would ask for money whenever he saw you and if you would tell him," go find a job," he would say," I have an interview next week."
Next week would never come for him. The truth is that people like him are encouraged to turn a lie into a truth. However, when patience runs out, you begin to see things the way they are. He is a lazy man who treats life as a joke. I thought if I see his brother again, I would tell him to stop supporting him. It would not be easy because his parents would not want him to live in the streets. There are many men like him around.
They often go for a soft touch. There was this man, I am not sure what has happened to him now, never worked a day in his life but live off other people's sweat. His excuse was that he was not well enough to work. He used to invent so many health problems to avoid getting off his butt. Take my advice, if you know such person, don't let him live a lie.
