Monday 22 / September / 2025
How many times have we sat somewhere quietly and thought how unfair the people around us have been?
Perhaps we need to look closely deep inside ourselves to get the answers. We also need to renew our faith within ourselves and what we have taken for granted. Usually the hostility usually melts away once we have done just that.
You need to think of all the useful things you could do instead of wasting your time thinking. You also need to know that, once you are in that situation, you already locked up in a mental dead zone.
All you have to do is look deep inside yourself and you may see something new that takes you away from the trap. Many people know what they are supposed to do when confronted with a problem but few have the courage of rigorously following through their plans.
It will not take much to work out a determination as long you allow yourself a variety of choices. Lying on a sofa and watching television is relaxing but it won't abate the fear in you. You won't feel good if you are unfit and certainly you may feel stressed out if something bothers you.
Sometimes you know that making the right decision may involve a heartbreaking possibility of losing what you have worked for all your life. Some people accept that possibility because it is the only way they could come to terms and have peace of mind.
Take an example when you lose your job and the turmoil that is in your head.
The first impulse is to look for another job but sometimes that may not be the solution. The problem may be deeper than that. It would mean that you are running away from a problem.
Sometimes to confront the source that threatens your employment situation may lead to a solution to straighten up your office problems. We usually sweat out on something that needs only a simple remedy to clear out. All we have to do is to look at the problem in a different light.
I remember, when I was student, a classmate thought the teachers were unfair with the examinations. He complained and fumed and he did not realise that he was wasting precious time. Until one day, a teacher drummed two fingers on his head and said, "we have done our job. It's time you do yours. Your anger won't change our minds."
My classmate knew he had everything to lose if he stormed out of the classroom. He calmed down and started the examination without making another fuss. He passed and I am sure he learned his lesson because he never complained again.
Nothing will seem unfair if you look at the other person's point of view. Everybody can come up with a justification to defend their decisions. When two opinions clash, it helps if both of you come out in the open to level things out.
Sometimes, it pays to give each other some credit to remove hostility. But above all, never underestimate your values into thinking that you are wasting time when you are actually doing something.
My old teacher was right when he said that “anger will not change” anyone’s mind. Let’s keep a cool head next time we are confronted by what appears to be a mountain of a problem standing in our path.
