We say 'no' to a lot of ideas — including most of our own ideas. But it's important to remember that 'no' can only be temporary. 'No' now may be 'Yes' later. Or it may be 'no' forever. The trick is to figure out which camp a certain no falls into and then respond appropriately.
We say 'yes' to others because we want to please them. But when eventually we can't continue, we let them down and we feel guilty. Both parties suffer. Recognise that a desire to please often prevents us from saying no.
Say No; If you are not comfortable — it could be the people involved, the type of work, the implications or you might be uncomfortable with any of a number of issues. don't be afraid to let someone know you just don't want to, in other words you may not enjoy that kind of work.
Say No; If you are not qualified — it's better to admit your limitations up front, if you feel that you don not have the adequate qualifications, or skills. someone else is bound to be qualified to take up the job.
Say No; If you do not have free time — You do not have to make excuses or feel sorry if you don't have any free time, you need to let people know as to when and how much responsibility you have accepted. Be honest if your schedule is filled.
Say No; If you are to split your attention among projects — Let people know that you will be more effective if you focus on one project at a time, but you can't when your focus is too divided or splintered, let people know that you want to do a good job for them.
Say No; Than do a mediocre job : If you know that you are not going to deliver better for any reasons viz — time, skills, people etc, do not accept responsibility, Say no with dignity. Understanding your limits is a talent to be expected.
Offer services of others if you can: — Helping to connect people is a valuable service to offer, make sure the person you refer will represent you well and can carry out the delegated work.
Before saying 'No' consider: if you really want to help but don't have time, say so offer to help at a later time or date, you aren't saying that you will never help out again, just that you feel your schedule is as full as you would like now.
State if you have any other commitment's: it doesn't matter what the commitment is, it can even simply be time to yourself or with friends or family, but be clear and be specific.
See if you can take alternate task: — saying no doesn't mean that you can't help at all, if someone asks you to do something you really cannot refuse then offer to help with something you are comfortable with.
Stick to your set of goals and strategies, this gives you a reason to stick to your course. When someone persists, repeat your position, perhaps in a slightly different way. Excel at just a few things, rather than being just average at many.
Don't try to do everything. You have a right to say no. Remember that others may take you for granted. Be polite but be firm in saying 'No' wherever and whenever required, as obliging and saying yes will only build false hopes.
The author, Dr C. K. Anchan, is managing director at World Wide Business House, Muscat